5 Ways to handle rejection.

1. Confident people let it sting for a bit:

One of the key ways confident people deal with rejection is acknowledging what happened rather than denying it. Confident people rely on their resources in hard times; and if they don’t have a solution at hand, they are confident it will come to them.

2. Confident people take stock and learn:

Confident people make an assessment of what happened. Whether it’s a relationship or work issue, a confident person doesn’t shirk examining what part they themselves had in creating the situation. Confident people don’t deny and they don’t repress; they look honestly at what happened to see how they can learn and improve from it.

3. Confident people don’t dwell on things:

You likely know the old saying, “What you focus on grows”. Find your self trying to figure out why it happened? That’s the confident person’s approach. Constantly obsessing over why - and not being able to forge an answer is - by contrast, an act of powerlessness. It’s common for people to obsess. The rumination itself can be a grand exercise in avoiding reality, and it tends to perpetuate a victim status.

4. Confident people realise that “It” is likely not personal:

This is possibly the most important marker of a resourceful, confident person. They tend to be able to see events from multiple perspectives. Non-confident people, because they don’t feel in control, suspect that their bad fortune is the result of some kind of conspiracy against them. Confident people, by contrast, realise that people do a lot of things for a lot of different reasons. They most certainly do not make grand judgements about themselves and their sense of worth, nor assume that they are the cause of events.

5. Confident people surround themselves with positive people:

They have a strong support group who remind them of their best traits and keep them grounded when life hands them a setback. “You are the mean of the five people you spend the most time with.” Rejection or victory, setback, or surprise boon, confident people ride the waves of life.